The wives of other people may be resorted to on the occasions already
described in Part I, Chapter V, of this work, but the possibility of their
acquisition, their fitness for cohabitation, the danger to oneself in uniting with
them, and the future effect of these unions, should first of all be examined. A
man may resort to the wife of another, for the purpose of saving his own life,
when he perceives that his love for her proceeds from one degree of intensity
to another. These degrees are ten in number, and are distinguished by the
following marks:
*Love of the eye
*Attachment of the mind
*Constant reflection
*Destruction of sleep
*Emaciation of the body
*Turning away from objects of enjoyment
*Removal of shame
*Madness
*Fainting
*Death
Ancient authors say that a man should know the disposition, truthfulness,
purity, and will of a young woman, as also the intensity, or weakness of her
passions, from the form of her body, and from her characteristic marks and
signs. But Vatsyayana is of opinion that the forms of bodies, and the
characteristic marks or signs are but erring tests of character, and that women
should be judged by their conduct, by the outward expression of their thoughts,
and by the movements of their bodies.
Now as a general rule Gonikaputra says that a woman falls in love with every
handsome man she sees, and so does every man at the sight of a beautiful
woman, but frequently they do not take any further steps, owing to various
considerations. In love the following circumstances are peculiar to the woman.
She loves without regard to right or wrong,1 and does not try to gain over a
man simply for the attainment of some particular purpose. Moreover, when a
man first makes up to her she naturally shrinks from him, even though she may
be willing to unite herself with him. But when the attempts to gain her are
repeated and renewed, she at last consents. But with a man, even though he
may have begun to love, he conquers his feelings from a regard for morality
and wisdom, and although his thoughts are often on the woman, he does not
yield, even though an attempt be made to gain him over. He sometimes makes
an attempt or effort to win the object of his affections, and having failed, he
leaves her alone for the future. In the same way, when a woman is once
gained, he often becomes indifferent about her. As for the saying that a man
does not care for what is easily gained, and only desires a thing which cannot
be obtained without difficulty, it is only a matter of talk.
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