KAMA SUTRA : PART3-CHAPTER -4 About things to be done only by the man, and the acquisition of the girl thereby

Now when the girl begins to show her love by outward signs and motions, as
described in the last chapter, the lover should try to gain her over entirely by
various ways and means, such as the following:
When engaged with her in any game or sport he should intentionally hold her
hand. He should practise upon her the various kinds of embraces, such as the
touching embrace, and others already described in a preceding chapter (Part II,
Chapter II). He should show her a pair of human beings cut out of the leaf of a
tree, and such like things, at intervals. When engaged in water sports, he
should dive at a distance from her, and come tip close to her. He should show
an increased liking for the new foliage of trees and such like things. He should
describe to her the pangs he suffers on her account. He should relate to her the
beautiful dream that he has had with reference to other women. At parties and
assemblies of his caste he should sit near her, and touch her under some
pretence or other, and having placed his foot upon hers, he should slowly touch
each of her toes, and press the ends of the nails; if successful in this, he should
get hold of her foot with his hand and repeat the same thing. He should also
press a finger of her hand between his toes when she happens to be washing
his feet; and whenever he gives anything to her or takes anything from her, he
should show her by his manner and look how much he loves her.
He should sprinkle upon her the water brought for rinsing his mouth; and when
alone with her in a lonely place, or in darkness, he should make love to her,
and tell her the true state of his mind without distressing her in any way.
Whenever he sits with her on the same seat or bed he should say to her, `I
have something to tell you in private', and then, when she comes to hear it in a
quiet place, he should express his love to her more by manner and signs than
by words. When he comes to know the state of her feelings towards him he
should pretend to be ill, and should make her come to his house to speak to
him. There he should intentionally hold her hand and place it on his eyes and
forehead, and under the pretence of preparing some medicine for him he should
ask her to do the work for his sake in the following words: `This work must be
done by you, and by nobody else.' When she wants to go away he should let
her go, with an earnest request to come and see him again. This device of
illness should be continued for three days and three nights. After this, when she
begins coming to see him frequently, he should carry on long conversations
with her, for, says Ghotakamukha, `though a man loves a girl ever so much, he
never succeeds in winning her without a great deal of talking'.

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