Female Ejaculation

An even greater mystery to most people than Female Orgasm is female ejaculation. Although we may have heard stories about friends who can ejaculate, or who have been with women who can ejaculate, many of us have never actually experienced it first hand. When asked to describe the ejaculations, responses are often quite similar, "It's liquid, it's clear, it's wet, and it squirts". Beyond this, the details have always been quite sketchy.

Let's begin by understanding what the elements of the ejaculate are. The four main ingredients are Glucose, prostatic acid phosphatase (an enzyme which is characteristic of the prostatic component of semen), urea and creatinine. The last two ingredients are commonly found in urine, but are in lower levels than in urine. So there is some urine in the ejaculate. Some studies conclude that in some women the ejaculate is more like urine, and in other women it more like a prostate fluid. Until this question is answered fully, its safest to assume that it is a bit of both. The quantity of ejaculate can range from a few drops, to a shower of it.

Where does the ejaculate come from? There are several theories on this, but remaining constant amongst all of them is that female ejaculation comes from G-spot Stimulation. When the G-spot is stimulated over a period of time, the spongy tissue that creates this area fills with fluid. Women who can ejaculate often hold back, thinking that it is urine. The exact source of the ejaculate is still debated by researchers, but it does appear to come out of the urethra (like urine) and/or nearby Skene's Gland, so that is where the confusion takes place.

So what's left? You might want to learn how to get someone to ejaculate, or how to do it yourself. Like exploring everything else new in your experience of sex, you should work towards it, but not put unnecessary stresses on yourself by making it your goal. Also, it is not known whether all women are able to ejaculate, so if you or your partner is unable to - don't worry, but perhaps keep trying once in a while. As you already know, the ejaculate comes from the urethra or Skene's Gland, so it feels a lot like urine.

Apart from those who love 'golden showers' (the fetish of urinating on, or being urinated on), many people do not feel comfortable enough to risk urinating on or around their partner. It may be a good idea to allow yourself or your partner some privacy to understand this function of their body; at the very least let your partner now that you are excited about it, not grossed out. That being said, great places to try this out include the shower or bathtub, in or near water, or on top of some old blankets that you don't mind getting wet.

If you have any comments about this article, or would like to share your personal experiences, please post below!

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Epilepsy and Sexuality

Sexuality is a normal part of a person’s life, and the expression of it can serve as a form of physical relief, a method to cope with stress, and a way to connect emotionally to another individual. The way in which each of us experiences sexuality differs from one person to another, but only more recently has it been fully realized the extent to which physical and psychological problems can alter or diminish one’s sexual expression. This can significantly negatively impact on associated sexual relationships.

Many medical conditions are commonly recognized for affecting sex, including: diabetes, hormone deficiency, and heart problems. These conditions affect a large percentage of the population and are studied and tested with great fervor. However, there are many more that continue to fly under the radar and (in particular) Epilepsy is one that is greatly misunderstood.

What is Epilepsy?

Epilepsy is a disorder of the central nervous system that specifically affects the brain. It is characterized by the tendency to suffer seizures, which occur when a strong surge of electrical activity gets sent through the all, or part, of the brain. These electrical bursts temporarily upset the electrical balance of the brain and cause out of sync signals to be sent throughout the body.

Who has Epilepsy?

Epilepsy most often starts in childhood, but can develop at any time throughout a person’s life. It is a neurological disorder that affects both men and women – though men are slightly more likely to develop it. The condition can even occur in animals. One in every 100 North Americans has active epilepsy, and according to the Canadian Epilepsy Alliance, “next to migraine headaches, it is the most common neurological disorder there is.”

Symptoms

Symptoms of Epilepsy vary widely from person to person, and its effects on an individual's mind, body and lifestyle can range from insignificant and mild - to extremely serious and debilitating. The disorder is most commonly associated with convulsions, but what many don’t realize (particularly as it relates to dating and sex) is that a number of factors - such as how many cells fire and the area of the brain involved – means that misfired signals can cause any number of symptoms to occur, including:

• Staring (because the brain prevents the person from understanding what they’re seeing).
• An inability to remain standing and/or stumbling.
• Repeated movements such as lip smacking, or jerking movements of the arms and legs.
• An alteration in behavior, consciousness, perception and/or sensation.

Epilepsy and Sex

Given the broad range of symptoms associated with the disorder, it probably comes as no surprise that Epilepsy can make life a lot more complicated, especially when it comes to meeting new people and having sex. Although the majority of people contending with Epilepsy have normal sex lives and don’t suffer from sexual difficulties, the unpredictable nature of the disorder can definitely cause problems for many.

Epilepsy’s effect on sex can be due to symptoms of the condition itself, the drugs used to control the illness, or a psychosomatic response to the possibility of it interfering with sex...

Drugs used to control the disorder

Drug treatments have come a long way in helping those with Epilepsy manage the disorder, but they also come along with some nasty side effects. Finding the right balance of seizure control while minimizing drug side effects is ideal, but it may take years (if ever) to find the optimal match.
Drugs used to treat the disorder (e.g. phenobarbital, carbamazepine, valproic acid, and diphenylhydantoin) can cause any number of the following to occur: partial to extreme fatigue; depressed sexual response & decreased libido; Erectile Dysfunction among men / Excessive Dryness problems among women; and difficulty in achieving orgasm.
Epilepsy medications can severely interfere with the Birth Control Pill (making it ineffective/unreliable). Unfortunately, some family M.D.s do not know this - or discuss this with their patients.
In addition to the heavy burden that seizure medications may impose on a person’s physical and mental well-being, seizures themselves can take a significant toll on a person’s energy levels and state of mind.

The condition itself

Seizures are commonly associated with ‘triggers’ such as flashing or flickering lights, though any number of stimuli can cause them to occur, such as stress, anxiety or tiredness. Despite efforts made to control the condition with medication, there are often times when drugs can only provide partial relief from symptoms. Thus, an epileptic person still has to contend with the possibility that the disorder may interfere with all aspects of their life.
Both men and women with epilepsy sometimes worry that sexual activity may act as a seizure trigger. However, research does not support this belief except in extremely rare cases. But again, Epilepsy is an unpredictable condition, and there may be times when sexual intercourse in stressed situations (with a new partner, for example) can trigger an epileptic state.

Mental/Emotional

People with epilepsy are often concerned as to whether their seizures will become an issue during sex, or worry that the drugs used to the control symptoms may affect their performance. Sufferers may also fear a negative response from their sex partners or, even worse, experience discrimination or rejection.
On the other hand, a person with an epileptic partner could create an opposite problem, by acting over protectively or avoiding certain sexual activities for fear of triggering an episode. This type of behavior can create a lot of frustration within an epileptic person’s mind - and if stressed enough, may create an emotional and physical state that actually leads to seizures.
Though anyone can suffer as result of feeling vulnerable or self-conscious, many people with epilepsy notice that strong feelings and emotions such as these actually affect the frequency and severity of their seizures. Additionally, feelings of fear can lead to low levels of sexual desire, difficulties in becoming sexually aroused, or painful intercourse.

Final Thought

There are many questions still unanswered about the cause and effective treatment of Epilepsy, and given the dozens of variations of the disorder, no one remedy will apply to everyone with the condition. In the meantime, finding effective ways to cope with the disorder’s psychological impact, and engaging with a partner who is patient, will help those dealing with it to discover ways to improve matters both in and out of the bedroom.

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Faking Orgasms

Some people look at it as a 'little white lie' when they're not quite able to climax during sex, perhaps to spare their partner’s ego when their performance might be otherwise perceived to be unsuccessful. Worryingly, some fake simply to get sex over with! But the fact of the matter remains that a faked orgasm happens far more often than one might realize...

What is a fake orgasm?

Having a fake orgasm is the act of pretending to reach climax when in fact the person has not. The individual who is simulating an orgasm will act out certain apparently enthusiastic behaviors that normally indicate orgasm, such as rapid breathing, vocalizing pleasure (via moans, screams, etc.), hair tossing, and gyration of the hips. Individuals who feign climax might also simulate an intensification of pleasure and a subsequent release, as an extra indication that they have ‘come’.

A humorous discussion of the topic of fake orgasms can be seen in the romantic movie, ‘When Harry Met Sally’; in the coffee shop scene where Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal were arguing over the fact that he was certain no woman had ever faked-it with him. Meg Ryan delivered one of the best, most highly believable on-screen examples of a fake orgasm, highlighting the fact that it can be extremely difficult to distinguish between a real and fake one.

Who fakes it, how often?

There are a number of surveys and studies reporting an alarming amount of faking, with nearly half of female respondents admitting that they've feigned the ‘Big O’ at least once in their lives:

• The Journal of Sexual Medicine conducted a survey among college aged women and found that 67% of their sample pool reported faking an orgasm during intercourse.
• A recently released British study that interviewed 71 women aged between 18 and 48 found that 25% of the sample faked pleasure sounds 90 percent of the time - faking pleasure during foreplay as well as during vaginal intercourse. The primary reason behind their faked enjoyment was so they could get sex over with.
• A survey conducted by Glamour magazine showed similar results. Also, of the 1500 women who participated in the research, only 28% said they could Orgasm from penetration alone. Most respondents needed a little something extra to come; 38% said they had to have manual stimulation, 21% needed oral sex, and 3% needed a vibrator.
• But don't think that men don't fake orgasms either. Polls and surveys show that a smaller percentage of men fake it too, which is made easier to do convincingly with the use of condoms. One web poll conducted by a popular men's website showed that as many as fifty percent of men have admitted to faking an Orgasm, at least once in their lives.
• A random telephone poll conducted in 2004 by ABC News Primetime revealed that out of the 1501 adult questioned, 11% of men reported faking it.

Reasons for faking orgasm

Many people have a hang-up, trigger or worry that can impact personal relationships - and unfortunately, these issues can also spill over into the bedroom. When a person feels like they need to fake an orgasm, it is usually a matter of them not communicating something - be it an emotional barrier, or simply a lack of being in a sexual mood.

A very common scenario that causes many men and women to fake orgasm is operating under the assumption that mutual, simultaneous orgasms are supposed to just happen - when in fact they aren't actually that common at all! People also hold on to an unrealistic belief that they are supposed to climax during intercourse, when in reality they forget to account for neither the variation in peoples' bodies, nor the uniqueness in their own sexual response.

Men and women share many other reasons when it comes to faking it, including:

• Being unable to get into the right frame of mind for sex because of stress, distraction or fatigue.
• Worrying that they're taking too long to climax.
• Feeling that sex isn't satisfying and/or engaging due to a sexual and/or relationship conflict.
• Experiencing too much pressure to climax, that ultimately can inhibit one's ability to do so.
• Feeling obligated to please a partner (some people are so concerned when they can’t bring their partner to ‘ecstasy’ that the other person fakes to make them feel good about their lovemaking abilities and to avoid hurting their feelings).
• The use of medication that inhibits one's physical ability to come during intercourse (e.g. SSRI antidepressants).
• Medical ailments like diabetes or certain neurological conditions.

Downsides of faking it

Other than for reasons such as trauma or physical disability, orgasm is possible for practically anybody - but the road to climax will differ from person to person … and sometimes doesn't involve intercourse at all! When an individual feels conflict about their particular sexual needs, they may experience pressure, shame or embarrassment - and rather than bringing up a topic that feels uncomfortable, they choose to avoid the problem and just go through the motions with their sexual partner.

Granted, some individuals find value in employing this strategy when it's a rare or one-off situation, and their intentions for doing so aren't necessarily malicious; but those who fake it on a regular basis are cheating themselves from enjoying truly fulfilling sexual experiences. Rather than coming up with strategies to improve their overall experience with pleasure, many don't speak up and let the problem fester. Sadly, covering up problems in the bedroom may lead some to seek sexual satisfaction outside of a relationship and/or break it off entirely. Ultimately, individuals who employ this method of dealing with barriers to sexual pleasure may find that it ends up creating more problems in the end.

Final thoughts

If 'faking it' has been an issue in your relationship, then it's best to start communicating. For the faking partner, explore the reasons why you choose to feign pleasure with your lover, rather than just admitting that orgasm isn't going to happen at that moment. For the partner who's being 'faked out', be respectful of your lover's concerns and try not put pressure on them to come every time. The important thing is to enjoy the sexual experience and not to overly-focus on the orgasm itself … certainly not to the point of faking the experience. Women especially can enjoy great sex, with or without an orgasm, and should never feel pressure to fake - whether self-imposed or otherwise. If the sex is good and enjoyed in its own right, that is what matters most … and the (real) orgasm will often follow.

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